Frequently-asked questions

What is a Full Time Mother?

Our definition of a FTM centres around the idea of a mother who sees it as her personal duty and responsibility to organise her time around her children’s emotional and physical needs.

Is FTM anti “working-mothers”?

Personal circumstances dictate whether a mother feels it necessary to return to paid employment, and that choice should always be respected.

A child’s needs change over time and so does the amount of time a mother needs to be physically there for him/her. As a result, mothers should have the choice and opportunity to return to paid employment in an environment that respects and supports the work they are involved with in the home. We believe that employers and employment policies should facilitate the demands of being a fully engaged mother.

We do not believe that a mother should be forced as a result of strapped economic circumstances to return to paid employment

Why does FTM focus only on the negative effects of non-parental childcare?

Successive British governments have funded solely non-parental childcare. We therefore highlight a side of the argument that, apparently, is not getting through to people who spend our taxes for us.

We are certainly not saying that all non-parental child care at all times is wrong.

‘Isn’t it better for two parents to work so that children don’t have to live off benefits and in poverty?’

There are different types of poverty – relational as well as economic. Children often suffer when parents are too busy to look after them or too distracted by the pressures of managing two jobs and a home.

Families are often kept in poverty by the burden of taxation and should be allowed to keep more of their earned income in the first place, in recognition of the added costs of raising children. Income splitting would help enormously, as would an increase in child benefit rates.

Pensions should also take account of the number of years that a parent has spent ‘caring’ whilst forfeiting a much needed salary in order to do so.

It is as important to prevent families from falling into debt and poverty in the first place, as it is to lift them out of poverty.

Is FTM anti-Feminism?

We believe that if Feminism is truly about Women’s Liberation, women should also be at liberty to be mothers and full-time mothers if they so choose. That choice, however, is a hollow one if it is not practically supported through mother-friendly employment policy, taxation/benefits policy, social policy, and other women.

Does FTM support the idea of Full Time Dads?

Yes! We are delighted when dads think highly enough of their children to want to take responsibility for their daily routine and to be there for them during the highs and lows of their children’s day. FTDs are very welcome as members.

Why isn’t FTM called Full-Time Parents?

We have deliberately chosen Full Time Mothers as our name, not in an effort to exclude, but to draw attention to the large number of women who are engaged and want to be engaged in the traditional role of bringing up children, but who are frequently socially isolated and politically ignored in today’s society.

Final thought:

Social patterns have changed but the needs of children have not. A child does not have a choice over its birth. S/he will always crave and need the consistent love and attention of his/her mother (although we recognise that her role may sometimes be filled by another close family member).

In an increasingly material and competitive world, we need to support those women who are courageous enough to take the financially difficult choice to work in the home in order to provide their children with a stable emotional foundation. As a society we need to remove the insecurity surrounding that choice, so that more women feel secure and fulfilled in taking it.

Full Time Mothers is working for a better, more stable society and future. As an organisation we are trying to turn the clock forward concerning the way in which full-time mothers are regarded and treated in the dawn of a new millennium.

Children are our future.

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